3 Self Defeating Attitudes Smart Kids Learn In School
School is where we spend the early years of our lives and learn crucial initial lessons. When certain behaviours or mindsets bring you success, they are naturally reinforced into your neural pathways. Those ideas will become part of you, of who you are. This is especially true if you learned those lessons at a young […]
Continue readingThe Surprising Benefits of Getting Angry
For a long time, I was afraid of allowing myself to get angry. Anger felt like a dark, powerful and dangerous force, and I hated the times I let it take over me. Like that time during my army service… When my soldier disobeyed my order, I saw a white flash in front of my […]
Continue readingWhy I Spent 2 Years Being An Asshole
This girl was my kryptonite. I was SO into her it wasn’t even funny. She was a beautiful, unpredictable 19-year-old, and I was an inexperienced 25-year-old. This was no love story. It wasn’t even much of a relationship. For months, we would hook up every once and again – when she felt like it. Nothing […]
Continue readingLessons From My New Morning Routine
The first of May I started experimenting with a new morning routine for reasons outlined here. It’s been a very positive, interesting experience and I’a like to chronicle some stuff I’ve learnt here. My Morning Routine Before As much as my mornings weren’t structured, humans are creatures of habit and I was in fact doing […]
Continue readingGood Habits And Morning Routines
I’ve been pretty good at pursuing big goals and changing my behavior in the process. I ran regularly when I was training for a marathon, meditated regularly when I doing the 10-week “Presence Process”, and wrote regularly when I took on the 10 posts challenge for this blog. Despite these behaviors positive effects on my […]
Continue readingThe Inner Battle Of Leaving a Business and Moving On
December 2010 was a particularly low point in my life. The local Melbourne men’s dating forum decided to stop allowed paid advertising… The same paid advertising that was my main way of attracting clients. Following that, my dating coaching business was falling apart at the seams. My income went to close to zero overnight. I asked my parents […]
Continue readingHow and Why I Moved to Australia
When I was a 25, based on a strong gut feel and without having any friends or family to welcome me, I moved to Australia. I eventually became an Australian permanent resident. This is how it went down. Backpacking trip At age 22, I was working and saving money to go on a big trip overseas […]
Continue readingMy First Real Failure In Life
At age 21, I was fresh out of the army and wanted to get my first job in the real world. With no work experience and relatively few real life skills, most jobs I could get were minimum wage and repetitive. But there was one job I was perfect for. I could be an SAT instructor. The […]
Continue readingDrinking Ayahuasca
This is the story of how I’ve come to ingest the strongest hallucinogens known and what I’ve learnt from it. What is Ayahuasca? Ayahuasca (pronounced AYA-wa-ska) is a liquid concoction made by combining two plants native to the Amazon rainforest. When ingested, this jungle juice gives one hallucinations and visions, and triggers deep philosophical realizations. […]
Continue readingLessons From The “10 Posts in 1 Month” Challenge
I bought the domain unstagnate.com in July 2012. I planned for it to be a place where I give value by sharing my stories, beliefs and tactics. With the theme of the blog being quite general, I could write a lot of my experiences under the same umbrella. And yet, ironically, Unstagnate remained stagnant. There […]
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